FAQs

Some people believe that sending unsent messages to Alexandria is a good way to get closure, while others believe that it is nothing more than digital harassment.

Dear Megan,

There are some things I’ve never told you. Things I was too afraid to say. But what would happen if I sent one of those unsent messages to you? Would it change anything?

I’m not sure if I’ll ever have the courage to send you these messages, but just in case, here they are.

If you care about Maria, why didn’t you send her a message?

“I’m sorry,” I choke out as I hit send. It’s too late to take it back now, the message is sent.

It’s 3 a.m. and you can’t sleep. Your mind is racing with all of the things you wish you had said, but didn’t. If you’re like most people, you have a backlog of unsent messages – texts, emails, letters – to people who are important to you. But what if I told you that these unsent messages could be a form of therapy?

It’s 3 a.m. and you can’t sleep. You try counting sheep, but your mind won’t stop racing. So you get up, make some tea, and sit down at your computer to check Facebook. And there she is: Tori, your high school best friend who you haven’t talked to in years. Her profile picture shows her at her college graduation, smiling and holding up her diploma. You stare at the screen for a minute, then click on the message icon and start typing.

“You were right. I was wrong. I’m sorry.”

I’m sorry for what I said, Keira. I was wrong and you were right.

If you’re wondering whether or not a message you sent on Instagram was unsent, there are a few things you can look for.

Dear Leah,

I hope you’re doing well. I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately. I know we haven’t talked in awhile, but I really miss you. I know things between us ended on a bad note, but I’m hoping we can put that behind us.

I know you’re busy with work and your new boyfriend, but I hope you’ll find some time to talk to me soon. I miss hearing about your life and catching up with you.

Hope to talk to you soon,

Your friend

I know what it’s like to feel like you can’t talk to someone.