It’s 3 a.m. and you can’t sleep. You toss and turn, thinking about the fight you had with your best friend, Lena. The fight was over something stupid, but now it feels like it’s all you can think about. You grab your phone and start typing out a long, emotional message to her. But then you stop yourself. Is it really a good idea to send this message? Let’s weigh the pros and cons.
If you’re anything like me, you have a lot of unsent messages in your Drafts folder. Most of us don’t like to admit it, but we’ve all been there. Whether it’s an unfinished email to a friend or a half-written text to a crush, those unsent messages can be a real burden.
Here are three simple steps to fix unsent messages to Jill:
1. Determine why the message is unsent.
This is the first and most important step. If you don’t know why the message is unsent, you can’t fix the problem. Is it because you’re unsure of what to say? Or, is it because you’re worried about how the other person will react? Once you know the reason, you can move on to step two.
2. Write out what you want to say.
Now that you know why the message is unsent, it’s time to write out what you want to say. This doesn’t have to be perfect, but it should be something that you’re comfortable with sending. If you’re still unsure of what to say, try thinking about how you would feel if you received the message.
3. Send the message.
The last step is simple: send the message. It may seem scary, but it’s important to face your fears and send the message anyway. Remember, there’s always the possibility that the other person feels the same way and is also waiting for you to make the first move.
It’s 3 a.m. and you can’t sleep. You toss and turn, thinking about the fight you had with your best friend. The fight was so big that you haven’t spoken since. You grab your phone and start typing out a message, but you can’t bring yourself to hit send. You know that if you do, it will be the end of your friendship. But you also know that if you don’t, you’ll never be able to fix things. What do you do?
Lizeth was scrolling through her Facebook feed when she saw the post. Her heart sank. It was from her best friend, the one she had grown up with since they were both in diapers. The post said, “I’m moving away. I’m so sorry, I didn’t want to tell you because I knew you’d be upset. I hope we can still be friends.” Lizeth felt her eyes well up with tears. She quickly typed out a response, but then deleted it. She couldn’t bring herself to send it. What would it say? “I’m so sorry. I’m going to miss you so much. Please don’t go.”